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  1. #1
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    Default Humanist Wedding - Help!

    Only recently have myself and H2B realised that it's a humanist wedding we're after... to be honest we didn't really know much about them and assumed a registrar would be flexible however after looking into it and doing some research we've realised it's perfect.

    Can anyone who is having or has had a humanist ceremony recommend any readings or poems? All the ones I seem to be able to find are quite 'ye olde' and we both just want a modern, non religious way of saying we love each other!!!!

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    Hi Kazia

    Hope the planning is going well. My husband and I had a humanist ceremony for our wedding and it was so lovely, everyone commented on how much they enjoyed it and I am sure you and your future husband have made the right decision. We trawled the internet to find reaqdings for our wedding and we found it hard because we aren't overly soppy people,although a wedding day is a great excuse to be soppy. I've pasted the readings we had below so you can have a look and see what you think

    Friendship , by Judy Bielicki

    ***8220;It is often said that it is love that makes the world go round. However, without doubt, it is friendship which keeps our spinning existence on an even keel. True friendship provides so many of the essentials for a happy life-it is the foundation on which to build an enduring relationship, it is the mortar which bonds us together in harmony, and it is the calm, warm protection we sometimes need when the world outside seems cold and chaotic. True friendship holds a mirror to our foibles and failings, without destroying our sense of worthiness. True friendship nurtures our hopes, supports us in our disappointments, and encourages us to grow to our best potential. (Bride) and (Groom) came together as friends. Today, they pledge to each other not only their love, but also the strength, warmth and, most importantly, the fun of true friendship.***8221;

    Marriage Joins Two People in the Circle of Its Love
    Edmund O***8217;Neill

    ***8220;Marriage is a commitment to life, to the best that two people can find and bring out in each other. It offers opportunities for sharing and growth that no other human relationship can equal; a joining that is promised for a lifetime. Within the circle of its love, marriage encompasses all of life***8217;s most important relationships.

    A wife and a husband are each other***8217;s best friend, confidant, lover, teacher, listener, and critic. There may come times when one partner is heartbroken or ailing, and the love of the other may resemble the tender caring of a parent for a child. Marriage deepens and enriches every facet of life. Happiness is fuller; memories are fresher; commitment is stronger; even anger is felt more strongly, and passes away more quickly. Marriage understands and forgives the mistakes life is unable to avoid. It encourages and nurtures new life, new experiences, and new ways of expressing love through the seasons of life.

    When two people pledge to love and care for each other in marriage, they create a spirit unique to themselves, which binds them closer than any spoken or written words. Marriage is a promise, a potential, made in the hearts of two people who love, which takes a lifetime to fulfill.***8221;

    The Relationship Promise by Luke Wright

    I promise, my darling, to be your best friend
    to settle the quarrels before the day ends
    to teach you new things and learn in return
    halve debts, colds and baths, and share laughs and concerns.

    I promise, my love, to be silly with you
    to giggle in restaurants and cinema queues
    the romance and hum-drum all blended to bliss
    a life battle-plan that***8217;s sealed with a kiss.

    From school runs and house work to sweet pillow talk
    from mortgage repayments to long country walks
    a cuppa in bed when the morning begins
    and then when it***8217;s over, I***8217;ll pour you a gin.

    I promise I***8217;ll seek to avoid nasty schisms
    I know that at times we***8217;ll need two televisions
    I love you so much that whenever we fight
    I***8217;ll learn to repeat: I was wrong, you were right.

    I***8217;ll cook for you darling, that***8217;s what love***8217;s about
    a meal made from scratch is worth one hundred out,
    and know that I***8217;ll be there when your spirit sinks
    to match you for messiness, cuddles and drinks.

    I love you, my darling, so let***8217;s live together
    stack days into decades to make our forever.

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    Those are gorgeous thank you so much :-) In particular I love the last one, brought a tear to my eye

    Thank you :-)

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    we got married on 6th june and had a humanist ceremony we had 3 readings,

    On Your Wedding Day
    Author Unknown

    Today is a day you will always remember
    The greatest in anyone***8217;s life,

    You***8217;ll start off the day just two people in love
    And end it as Husband and Wife,

    It***8217;s a brand new beginning the start of a journey
    With moments to cherish and treasure,
    And although there***8217;ll be time when you both disagree
    These will surely be outweighed by pleasure,

    You***8217;ll have heard many words of advice in the past
    When the secrets of marriage were spoken,
    But you know that the answers lie hidden inside
    Where the bond of true love lies unbroken,

    So live happy forever as lovers and friends,
    It***8217;s the dawn of a new life for you,
    As you stand there together with love in your eyes
    From the moment you whisper ***8216;I do***8217;
    And with luck, all your hopes, and your dreams can be real
    May success find its way to your hearts ,
    Tomorrow can bring you the greatest of joys
    But today is the day it all starts.

    The one
    Author unknown

    When the one whose hand you***8217;re holding
    Is the one who holds your heart,

    When the one whose eyes you gaze into
    Gives your hopes and dreams their start,

    When the one you think of first and last
    Is the one who holds you tight,

    And the things you plan together
    Make the whole world seem just right,

    When the one whom you believe in
    Puts their faith and trust in you,
    You***8217;ve found the one and only love
    You***8217;ll share your whole life through

    My love is like a red red rose
    Robert Burns

    O, my luve's like a red, red rose,
    That's newly sprung in June.
    O, my luve's like the melodie,
    That's sweetly play'd in tune.

    As fair art thou, my bonie lass,
    So deep in luve am I,
    And I will luve thee still, my Dear,
    Till a' the seas gang dry.

    Till a' the seas gang dry, my Dear,
    And the rocks melt wi' the sun!
    O I will luve thee still, my Dear,
    While the sands o' life shall run.

    And fare thee weel, my only Luve,
    And fare thee weel a while!
    And I will come again, my Luve,
    Tho' it were ten thousand mile!

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    Ooooh! I read 'on your wedding day' at my cousins wedding a few years ago, it's got a good rhythm to it but I couldn't for the life of me remember what it was called, thank you :-)

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    It really is a lovely reading, we asked the celebrant to start our service by reading it as we felt it set a lovely tone for the service.

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    Hello! Congratulations on your possible wedding! But I am very interested in whether you are confident in your choice? After all, this is a very important and responsible decision, which must be approached with a cold mind, and not under the influence of emotions. After all, you will need to live with this person for a very long time, and possibly even a lifetime. Do you understand the burden of responsibility that lies with you?
    A couple of years ago, I also wanted to get married, but then I realized that I was in a hurry and because of that I broke up with my girlfriend. In the end, I wanted to satisfy my needs, and I decided to try escort services.
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